12/06/2013

A Bleak Future for Intimacy*

Posted in Family, General, Musings, Self-Awareness, Teen Trials tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , at 9:37 am by The Water Bearer

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It is common to hear diatribes of drama and dysfunction from people sharing about their relationships and social interactions. Yes, relationships are tricky, however as experience is gained, overtime, social guidelines help us avoid so much of the non-sense drama of our youth.  In this past week alone, I have listened to too many examples of social immaturity and hypocrisy. We are not in high school anymore, so why does it often sound like we are?

Judgment without Grace,

Offense without Accountability,

Deception without Discernment,

Walls without Boundaries,

Conflict without Resolution,

Anger without Acceptance,

Passion without Humility,

Condemnation without Self-Reflection,

Battle without Courage.

Our ability to relate and connect is a fundamental element of being human, and yet our ability to achieve maturity in this area seems to becoming less and less apparent.

I am extremely concerned for the social development of our generation and the next, now that relationships and connections are being severely affected by the new ways to connect with family, friends, acquaintances and even strangers. Social Networking claims to make connecting better, easier, and more convenient. But is this “easier” way helping us to develop strategies to interact genuinely, intimately and develop social maturity? I’m not so sure.

For those who fail to stretch and grow through the discomfort of tricky relational issues, it is too easy to sit behind a computer screen and imitate genuine human connection. Are they thinking to themselves… “The real world is too painful, people are difficult, online I can block them, ignore them, hide from them or berate them. I can find someone to agree with and fuel my opinion, by giving only my side of any situation.” ??

Is this the type of social development we want for our children?

With all the technological ways we have these days, to gain our craved ‘hit’ of connection, why would anyone choose the harder path of learning to understand and accept human nature. Let’s give our children the opportunity to develop social skills first. Then, once they leave High School or even University, and have some sturdy social guidelines in place, social networking can become a fantastic tool. Saying “No” when your teenager asks you if they can create a Facebook account may seem unfair, especially when “All my friends are on there”. Yet, when your ‘No’ is deeply grounded in your concern for their social safety and development, it becomes reasonable and responsible.

I pray our children gain the skills to handle conflict resolution face-to-face, that they learn to pick their battles, and to create a filter so they know who to trust with their personal story, and whose story to believe. To experience the complexities of true relationships that grow and twist with time, changing them into deeper more compassionate and well-rounded human beings.

HUgs

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11 Comments »

  1. Technology is a monster we have created that is sadly doing are children in one movie, one game, one text and one internet encounter at a time. They are so far removed from nature and God it is scary and they have no sense of shame anymore either. I watched my neighbors and her children literally starve their cat (which she ended up giving to me). When she gave me the cat…the children could have cared less. I remember when I was little and a neighborhood stray had her kittens in the broom closet on our back porch. My mother called the humane society to come and get them and when they did I cried like that had been my cat for 16 years! Kids were like that back then, they would cry if a wild animal got hurt…they had empathy. There is no empathy in these children. They are like the cold wired machines that they spend their time on. Emotionless, hard, non-caring and unable as you say to relate or conduct themselves appropriately in a relationship. Their parents have failed them miserably.

    Excellent post sister Yah bless you:)

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    • Thank you Sharon for that powerful comment. Yes I agree, Every child deserves a parent, but not every parent deserves their child. Sigh*
      I am extremely looking forward to the day Elohim takes back His place as God of this world, and we see the fullness of His divine wisdom, design, justice and love! Until then, on my knees….. Blessings to you!

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  2. That was powerful my sister!! Right up my “alley”. 😉

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  3. Reblogged this on A Prophetic Walk and commented:
    This is so timely and fit in with why I am leaving this blog alone for a while.

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  4. WordsFallFromMyEyes said,

    Wow, a very solid article indeed. And thought provoking. Thank you for this write up.

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    • Thank you so much for stopping by. I am so glad you appreciated the article. It is a scary future, especially when even now I see such social immaturity even in the generation before ours. What hope do our children have? It is up to us to ensure they develop relational skills or else they only have a future of dysfunction to look forward to. I appreciate your encouragement. Blessings to you!

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  5. ptl2010 said,

    So apt and I like this summary:

    Judgment without Grace,

    Offense without Accountability,

    Deception without Discernment,

    Walls without Boundaries,

    Conflict without Resolution,

    Anger without Acceptance,

    Passion without Humility,

    Condemnation without Self-Reflection,

    Battle without Courage.

    Well said. God bless.

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